No, I am not with child ;). Just a few things I will want to pass on when I have or adopt a little girl (or boy).
That there is a big difference between a woman and a lady (and a man and a gentleman).
That we all have different bodies and it’s important we respect ours and do what we can to keep it healthy and strong.
That an education, strong moral fiber, and good manners are “at minimum” for her and those she engages.
That is more than OK to stand up for herself, it’s essential.
That everyone has an opinion and she always has veto power.
How to apologize, mean it and move on.
Why forgiving (herself and others) is the only way out (and the best revenge).
How to write a thank you note, sympathy card and an angry email (write it and wait 48 hours before you edit it and then wait another 48 hours).
How to dance in the living room for no reason at all.
How to go after what she wants in life.
The difference between being ambitious and being ruthless.
How to express herself without being vulgar or demeaning.
Why she must hone and trust her instincts.
That feelings can be notoriously misleading.
The value of time, love, friendship, connections and support. These things are gifts.
That we are not in competition with anyone and that one person having something doesn’t mean there is less for us.
That having a partner is wonderful, but so is having a time in your life when you can just live completely by your own rules.
To save her kisses and intimate moments are for those who have earned them and not pass them out like flyers to strangers.
How to paint terrible masterpieces.
That love is not perfect. There will be hard times, good times, and times when you want to give up. The key is to find someone who will not only protect, respect and appreciate you, but themselves and the relationship they have with you.
That we all have choices and we shape our life every time we make one.
That y0u really don’t have to choose between love and a career you love.
How to lose a day at the museum.
That there is no real love without respect and no truth in words without action.
That passion without compassion is a recipe for disaster.
How to bake cookies while listening to Edith Piaf and pretending to be in France.
That no one has the right to hit her, with their hands or words.
That she can do anything she sets her mind do, and she won’t just be “good for a girl”. She’ll just be good.
How to sail.
The power of words.
That the labels one should worry about are the ones attached to your reputation.
That she is not supposed to be “perfect” in any way. Besides, perfection is arbitrary.
That lying leads to more lying.
That we all put our pants on one leg at a time.
How to keep control of her finances.
How to spot a playboy.
That your word is your bond, your relationships are your riches and your love, totally valuable.
That you’ll never have to “chase” someone who is right for you.
How to love a child with all of your heart.
How to apply for (and use) a passport.
That men worth standing beside her will fight for her, stand up for her and work to be the best man for her.
That we are all on a journey and doing the best we can with the tools we have. That said, there are always ways to acquire better tools and navigate, communicate and live even better.
How to make others feel welcome–at work, at home, on the street, in your life.
How to ride a bike, swim, fish, roast a marshmallow, put on a Barbie fashion show and climb a tree.
How to honor her great-grandfather on his birthday with burgers and pie.
How to hit a speed bag and do a pull-up.
To always offer whatever she has to those around her who need it more than she does.
How to host a tea picnic book club under a tree.
To recognize the beauty in a flower, a sunrise, a moment, a pet, a person.
How to get through a heartache.
How to enjoy the little moments.
Anything she picks up from her mother’s journals.