Blame it on my Aries “do it now” mentality, my Leo “watch me” rising, or the fact that I am simply ready to start a new chapter–or, if we are being honest, a new book–I have been in serious life makeover mode as of late. After a lovely chat with an even lovelier colleague (shout out, Tamara), we decided to insert a “Personal Power Hour” into each of our days. This hour will be spent checking in with ourselves, figuring out what it is that we really want, and creating a strategy to help us move from where we are to where it is that we’d like to be. Today, I decided to start this journey by answering six questions I found in Lolly Daskal’s Piece, Leadership Tips: 6 Powerful Questions to Ask Yourself on Inc.com. Lolly swears answering the questions will prove helpful in our path to success, and I think she may be right. Let’s give it a try, shall we?
I love the accountability requirement posed by this question. There’s no hemming and hawing on this one; you either did or you didn’t. Fortunately, I did. A few days ago, I had a bit of an epiphany and realized that I needed to let go of my past and get a grip on my future. I thought about the five things I would focus on if there were no limitations in my life. It was an easy task, and a very surprising one. The answers were so clear to me once I took the time to sit down and ask myself what I wanted to do (instead of just asking everyone around me what they thought I should do).
Then I played mix-and-match and wrote down a number of goals that I feel are synergistic with my spirit and where I would be in the next year or two. Being a sensitive type- A, competitive, procrastinating, impulsive and impatient overachiever, I tend to get overwhelmed pretty quickly, living in the purgatory between dreams of world domination and total disappointment. It is my hope that by devoting real in-the-calendar time to each one of my goals, I will streamline an often chaotic to-do list. But Lolly asked about today. Today, I woke up and hit the gym for an hour (fitness goal), drank a terrible-tasting “green” juice (health goal), called to lower my interest rate on a couple of things (financial goal), am doing research on Argentina (travel goal) and plan to clean out my closet and do laundry (home design goal).
2. What bad habits do I need to stop?
Oh boy, do I have some habits. They may not be “bad” per se, but they are certainly self-defeating. Take, for example, my penchant for holding onto things, people, slights and relationships three times longer than I should. This tends to lead to experiencing three times the pain and frustration that could have been avoided had I simply let go when I should have. This is particularly credibility-crushing when the thing, person, slights are doing their damndest to be let go. I don’t have to detail the conundrum this sort of thing causes. I am also a talented mess maker and key loser. This would be a source of pride if I weren’t slightly OCD in my need to have things in order. Oh, and I can go from Michael to Sonny in o seconds flat. So, as you can see, we have some work to do.
3. What motivated me today?
I have the very fortunate disposition of being someone who seeks out sources of both inspiration and motivation. I have always had very big dreams and plenty of ambition and hard work is something I really enjoy, so waking up with Julius Caesar-style focus is never an issue. That said, being motivated to do something is not enough; you need to know how to stay motivated and when to change your source of motivation. I tend to get so motivated that I fixate on making things happen that no longer should. E tu, brute? Yes, indeed.
4. Have I been the kind of person I want to be?
I am very comfortable with my character and values, but that still doesn’t mean I have been the kind of person I want to be. The person I want to be is much more confident and centered than the one who sits here, often with a roller-coaster going inside of her. She’s also shaking her head at the many times I begged others and the universe for something that wasn’t right for me instead of simply, well, here it is again, letting go.
5. What mistakes did I make today, and what can I learn from them?
I love this question. Love, love, love it! The idea of addressing stumbles right there, in real time, is extremely attractive to me. I have made plenty of mistakes, but the one today only cost me money. I completely overlooked a URL renewal and got slapped with a 90.00 bill as a result. Sigh. Lesson: Place expiration dates in the calendar along with due dates.
6. What am I grateful for today?
Ah, everything in my life and the chance to live.
OK, I have put it all out there for the world to read, but you don’t have to. Write down the questions and give them a go and tell me how you feel about this little process afterwards!