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Five Ways To Change Your Life Every Single Day

I really believe this is the best way to live. A life without constant growth and development leads to a stagnant “Groundhog Day” effect that, for me, feels like hell on earth when experienced (and boy, have I ever experienced it).  Though we cannot always achieve what we want to in the moments we want to, we can always challenge the ways we process the information, opportunities and obstacles that come our way. When we seek to learn how to do better, we will always find ways to be a better version of ourselves than we were yesterday. 

Here are a five easy ways to expand your world and polish yourself every day.

 

Let every day be a day of Exploration, Curiosity and Education:  Pick up a book and read a few pages, try a new food, read a news article, walk down a new block, visit a museum, or listen to a new genre of music.  Try and learn at least one new thing each and every day and watch your interests and conversations blossom.

Get Out of Your Space: The best way to change your headspace is to change your physical space. Go for a walk, a coffee run, a real run, whatever. Sometimes, as little as 10 minutes walking around the block in the sunshine is enough to change your entire outlook.

Commit: “We’ll see” and “Maybe” is for losers. Really. People who lose out on life are those who dance in the gray area between yes and no, and we all know this dance is closer to no, anyway. If you say you’ll do something, even to yourself, don’t make excuses when facing the difficult moment you need to overcome in order to do it.  Get out of bed and go to the gym, meet the new contact for the coffee you said you’d have next week, set a date to sign up for the class/marathon and RSVP to the party and go. Remind yourself that whatever discomfort you foresee is worth the reward you’re seeking.

Fear is a Trainer, Self-Doubt is a Hater: Unless you’re in a truly unsafe situation or you have a real reason not to believe something, treat fear as a great trainer there to challenge you to overcome your own limitations and build confidence through undisputable  action.  Self-doubt, on the other hand, is there to poison your happiness. Every time you succumb to it, you fall back, it’s that simple.

Don’t Overthink It: We can think of a million things that could happen, most of them won’t. Be responsible, but be responsive.

 

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Pick Of The Day: Living Fearlessly

 

 

“Oh, when she’s angry, she is keen and shrewd! She was a vixen when she went to school. And though she be but little, she is fierce.” Shakespeare

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Are You Afraid To Introduce The Real You To The World?

You can be held back by the fear of judgement, of failure, of rejection or you can spend your time here on this earth seeking out the the people, situations and understanding you want to experience on your journey.

Your journey.

Think about that for a moment.

The time you have here belongs to you.

Your life is not meant to fit anyone else perfectly.

It is not meant to please everyone else all of the time.

It’s supposed to be tailored to fit you whether that’s living to make the world a better place or living in isolation.

As long as it is not hurting anyone, there is no problem.

Just do not forget that you are someone, too.

Take a chance and introduce the world to  who you truly are.

What’s the worst that could happen?

You will live authentically and know you did it the way you wanted to when it comes to an end…

Without confinement. With total freedom.

Isn’t that the epitome of the good life?

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25 Things Every Woman Needs To Know

-Brenda Della Casa

You are not responsible for the things your parents did or did not say to you, do for you, or teach you. You are, however, responsible for everything you say, do and show others. Drunk or sober, angry or joyful, sincere or not.

Sometimes you “win” by just deciding to stop talking, get up and go.

You have things about you that are drop-dead, oh-my-heavens-look-at-her amazing.

Just because she is pretty doesn’t mean you’re not. Just because she has met someone doesn’t mean you won’t.  Turn that jealousy into inspiration and watch your life blossom.

Any girl can achieve “Hot”  with makeup, a blowout, a short dress and heels. Witty, charming, self-respecting, elegant and drop-dead smart?  That’s gorgeous.

There’s plenty of good guys out there. If a man gives you anxiety, excuses, a reason not to believe him or anything that requires a prescription, he needs to be out of your life.

Having a relationship is not the goal.  Having a healthy, happy and loving relationship (with yourself and then someone else) is.

There’s never a reason to be a mean girl.  You’re an intelligent, compassionate and professional woman. Carry yourself like one and surround yourself with women who think catty is best reserved for Lindsay Lohan movies.

When it comes to your relationships, spend more time than money, give more compliments than criticisms, and for goodness sake, flash your manners.

A negative imagination is a dangerous, destructive device. Just because they say it, or you think it, doesn’t make it true.

Men who have six packs and great biceps often  sustain themselves on a diet  consisting of chicken and eggs and will choose the gym over date night with you.  Remember that.

It’s OK to be ambitious, but ruthless?  Bye, bye Rolodex.

Everyone wants to feel needed, no one wants to deal with needy.

You want to be a boss? Take care of your business.

Don’t spend your time trying to date a baller. Spend it working to become a baller.She who dates a man for money should not complain when he treats her poorly.  How do you treat that sweater you bought three years ago?

Urban Decay eyeshadow primer, Bye Bye Under Eye concealer and Nars bronzer will give you an about face.

It’s OK to like sex.  If you have it with a man who has not shown you that he respects, loves you, or wants to date you before having it, don’t expect having sex with him to change your status quo.

The only way to deal with a bully is to stand up to them.

Just because you ignore it doesn’t make it go away, and just because you rationalize it doesn’t make it right, and just because you want him doesn’t make him right for you.

Men who want to be with you will contact you consistently and respectfully.  Men who do not will not. Pretty simple.

Karma is really cause-and-effect.  Change your actions, reactions and the way you put yourself out there and you’ll change the way the world responds to you.

Love means different things to different people. When you say “I Love You”, you are taking responsibility for your actions and suggesting you will care about another person and their feelings. If they love you like they love hot dogs and songs on their playlist, that’s not going to do much for you long-term.

Happiness may not always be as easy as making a choice to be happy, but we always have a choice as to how to filter situations we find ourselves in. Is it proof the universe hates us or is it just life?

Smart is sexy. Kind is beautiful.

Everything you want is out there and everything you need to achieve it is inside of you.

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Picks of The Day: Le Seduction

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Oscar Wilde: ‘Do you mind if I smoke?’

Sarah Bernhardt: ‘I don’t care if you burn.’

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Changing The Filter

She had looked at life through their lens,

Staring  at the image in the mirror,

One carelessly sketched out by them.

Dots connected by a string of words,

whispers and stories,

and promises broken and exchanged.

Shaded by the the secrets and lies told to and about her,

She had developed in the chaos as they pushed and pulled her away.

She had tried to match their vision with the reality that she knew,

While gripping onto the idea that it would be the only one she would know.

But there in the the light,

Under the sun that looked down upon her lovingly,

She thought.

She smiled.

And standing in a world that belonged to all of them,

She pictured the life she wanted to live…

And set it into motion.

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In Living Color

“Get your priorities straight,” he demanded.

She didn’t know what to say.

She had always believed that she knew what meant the most to her,

What she desired in her heart of hearts.

Here he was offering her a piece of that,

in his own way.

It would not be perfect,

but what was?

She thought about it.

She didn’t feel the urge to run the way she had in the past.

Yes,

she ached for that,

for him,

But also her life.

One that she had just started to experience,

With it’s so fullness,  freedom and room to breathe.

One could not be replaced by the other,

Didn’t he understand?

“You need to figure out what you want,” he sighed.

She stood confused.

 She wanted it all.

With him.

She excitedly tried to share what she thought he knew

But he only heard “no”.

At that moment, she realized that they were living in two different genres…

He was talking in black and white,

She was living in Technicolor.