If our thoughts create our reality and we find what it is that we seek, aside from serious health issues, tragedies and disasters, we all have the potential to live a life that is full–and a whole lot happier. Here are a few ways to grin more (and bear less).
Open Your Arms, and Put Out Your Hand, But Don’t Clasp Onto Anything: None of us want to admit it, but we have all been in situations when something (or someone) we wanted so badly starts to slip away. Some of us release while others tighten their grip. What is right for you takes work to maintain, but begging is not becoming of the person you have worked hard to become and if you’re not being welcomed into someone’s home, heart or office space and respected and appreciated while there, it’s best to stop knocking and go back into your own happy space.
Change Your Tune: Sure, sad and angry songs can feel synergistic, but listening to something more upbeat (like Robin Thicke’s “Blurred Lines” or Beyonce’s “Single Ladies”) can bring you back up when you’re down.
Assume The Best In People: Not every missed call means someone is avoiding you, and that look from your co-worker might have just been laid on his or her face by a painful thought having to do with something far more serious than you not filling up the paper in the fax machine. Yes, there are selfish and manipulative people out there, but walking around looking for slights and insults is a one-way ticket to misery (and often driven by misinterpretation).
Find The Present In Your History: Your past offers you the gift of understanding and strength. There’s a good chance that, whatever you are facing, you have either faced something similar or worse and things turned out just fine. Nothing can break you except you.
Be Proactive: The more you reach out, read up and walk forward, the more aware of opportunities and possibilities you become. Fear of the unknown is common, but what if what you don’t know is how wonderful your life can actually be?
Play The Kaley Game: My friend, Kaley, is one of the most positive, kind-hearted and friendly people I have ever known. Whenever one of us gets down or complains too much, she stops us and says, “Quick, name six things you are grateful for right now.” She then makes everyone around us do it. Works every time.
Accept Reality, Then Change What You Don’t Like: Buddhists believe that rejection of what is happening in the here and now is at the root of unhappiness. Sounds simple, but the more I think about it, the more I see the truth in it. Whether you’re dealing with a job loss, a break-up or something far more serious, accepting that you are where you are instead of focusing on where you were (or beating yourself up for how long you stayed there) or where you would like to be is a waste of precious time that can be used to create a plan of action to move you forward.
Bring Positivity & Perspective: They say that misery loves company, but I personally like to be surrounded by smart, strong and happy people when I am feeling low. While being dismissive of my concerns will not lift my spirits, validating my feelings and then reminding me that I can change my situation and that whatever I am dealing with is manageable and I can turn it around works like a charm. I love that my friends and I will treat unhappiness as an infection to clear up and not join in a big piss-fest (wait, did I just say piss-fest?) There is freedom in accountability and knowing that we choose what we deal (and don’t deal) with.
What are your tips?
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