Those of you who have been following the site a while know that I like to post the Proust Questionnaire every year. It’s not only a good way to check in with yourself, so to speak, but also a wonderful way to track your progress and development as each year passes.
What started as a parlour game has become a Vanity Fair staple, and let’s face it; it’s a lot of fun to fill out.
As always, I would love, love, love to read yours (either on your own sites, in emails or posted below in the comment section).
What is your idea of perfect happiness?
Good health, writing as work and play, a passport full of stamps, a booked ticket, a garden office, a fun, supportive and inspiring partner and children I can teach, guide, love and learn from.
What is your greatest fear?
To die with more regrets than experiences.
Which living person do you most admire?
So many of my friends, Bill Clinton, Tom Chiarella, Madonna.
What is your favorite journey?
The development of love, with all of it’s twists, turns and hurdles.
What do you consider the most overrated virtue?
Using honesty as a means to devalue a dream or demean another.
On what occasion do you lie?
Not a fan of lying, but if I do, it’s usually avoid hurting someone.
What do you dislike most about your appearance?
I’d prefer my long life be documented by acts, pieces published and memories, not lines on my face and body.
Which words or phrases do you most overuse?
“I love you, I appreciate you and I miss you.” Not because I don’t mean them, but because I never want anyone who matters to me to ever doubt it should either of us be taken away in a moment.
What is your greatest regret?
Not asking my grandpa more questions.
What or who is the greatest love of your life?
My grandfather, Tony Montana, my chihuahua, and him.
When and where were you happiest?
With my grandfather, my first night in my college dorm, in the oval office, and in Sydney, Australia last year.
Which talent would you most like to have?
I would love to sail, play the violin and be a great writer like Dumas.
What is your current state of mind?
If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
A thicker skin.
If you could change one thing about your family, what would it be?
My friends are my family, and only that all of them were closer.
What do you consider your greatest achievement?
I started from where I started and am where I am and that I know what is most important at the end of life because I have seen it come into play so many times.
If you were to die and come back as a person or thing, what do you think it would be?
If you could choose what to come back as, what would it be?
A loving mother and writer.
What is your most treasured possession?
My grandmothers ring, my grandfather’s knives, their photos, Tony Montana (who owns me), my diaries and and anything that holds and plays music.
What do you regard as the lowest depth of misery?
The loss of someone you love, either by death or destruction.
Where would you like to live?
What is your most marked characteristic?
I am told my enthusiasm and vulnerability.
What do you most value in your friends?
Oh, everything. I love them all so much.
Who are your heroes in real life?
My grandfather, my friends, and anyone who has fought for a better life. Honest and kind people are also my hero’s because it takes courage to be both and the world does not make being either easy.
What are your favorite names?
The names of those I love most.
What is it that you most dislike?
Deception, cruelty, bigotry and all that comes with it.
How would you like to die?
In my sleep at 105 after a wonderful night and several martini’s.
What is your motto?
“If you can do something good, you should.”