Pick and choose, amend as you see fit or toss all together.
Accept that you are now entering the next year of your life and your status quo should change. You are taking the lessons of the past year (and those before it) and making tweaks, for you, and not anyone else.
Do not do “anything” for a love that is not doing anything for you. Doing so is not romantic or noble, it’s a sign that something deep inside of you needs to be addressed.
When you can, put in that extra effort required to be extraordinary. Doing so will create a life that is much fuller (and even sparkles a little).
When you leave a room, be the person they want to see again and not the one who makes them breathe a sigh of relief when the door closes behind you.
Don’t follow dangling carrots.
Recognize that those who speak negatively about others aren’t innovative or interesting, they aren’t inspiring or informative, they are simply sad and common, and bring joy only when they leave the room. Make an effort not only to not be one of those people, but to let them know you’re not interested in engaging them.
If you want an answer to a question, go to the source. Going to someone else for “advice” about how another human being feels is like choosing a fortune teller over an encyclopedia.
Instead of judging everyone around you, people you don’t know, and yourself for being a human being (all of whom are flawed in their own way) try to understand and actually get somewhere.
Put bluntly: Don’t be anyone’s bitch.
Love, forgive and support with commitment or don’t do it at all.
Let go of the desire to manipulate your way in and out of places and relationships. Just be yourself and go where you are invited in; where you belong.
Stop putting yourself down in order to place them on a pedestal.
Plan a few trips with your friends and just live with a smile on your face a few days.
Pick up a book at least one time for every three you pick up the remote.
Accept that you are worth way more than you are bargaining for.
See kindness for what it really is, strength and wisdom.
Be the kind of person you would really like to have in your life.
Show gratitude for the life you have been given and the life you are able to give yourself and show appreciation to those who share both with you.
Doing nothing is not a waste of time. Doing something you know won’t work over and over is. Stop doing that.
Do the right thing, right now. Repeat.
Take your vitamins.
Don’t just have a heart, prove that you do.
Make your spiritual health as important as your physical health and tone your mind more than you tone your booty.
Do something that adds value to a life every single day.
Share more experiences than wishes.
Be a Vintage Spider on the coastline and not a fire truck pushing its way through the streets.
Get a mentor. Meet with the mentor. Be worthy of their time.
Find reasons to laugh at the nuances of life, not people.
Hope with intelligence.
Get up each day with an intention.
Create with inspiration.
Make every season one of giving.
Set daily, weekly, monthly and quarterly goals for yourself.
Be good to the souls around you (and the one inside of you).
Drink less alcohol and more water.
Move on with your life with people who want to be in it and say goodbye to those who do not. It won’t be easy, but some people do not want to go with you at the pace you are going and that’s OK.