Sure, having a relationship has its perks…
But so does flying solo.
Whether you’re considering clearing your dance card, wondering if your current relationship is worth the fight or simply thinking about leaving, here are questions to ask yourself:
How well do you feel you know him? What do you know about his childhood, family, background, jobs, dreams and goals?
If you were to forego the feelings and analysis and write down only the facts on paper, what message would you get about him and the relationship?
Do you feel like his “everything”, an obligation or option?
Does he take responsibility for himself or blame others for things that go wrong in his life?
If there is a communication breakdown, does he try and resolve things, go silent or try to “win” the argument?
Is he able to speak with you about difficult issues in an open and respectful way?
If you called him crying, how would he respond?
As a whole, can you count on him?
Does he make future plans with you?
How often do you see and hear from him and in what context?
Do you feel secure, not just in the relationship now, but where it’s going?
Do you feel like you can reach him most of the time or are you always waiting for a response?
Have you been invited into his life and introduced to the people who matter most to him?
Does he show an interest in your life, knowing your friends and meeting those who mean the most to you?
What does your gut say about the relationship?
Would he fight for you?
When he is out does he go MIA or does he make an effort to let you know you’re on his mind, even with just a few random texts?
Do you feel as though you can share your feelings and concerns openly and does he care about them?
Do you feel there is an equal amount of initiation, affection, give and take?
Does he appreciate the person you are?
Do you see more effort or hear more excuses?
Does he make you feel safe, loved and respected consistently?
Does he remember things that are important to you?
Are you happy at least 80% of the time?
Do you feel loved/respected all of the time?
Do you feel supported?
Would you want your best friend/sister to date a guy just like him as he is right now?